4 Things Our Children Will Remember About COVID-19
Watergate television updates in 1972 were nothing more than interruptions to my cartoons. As a seven year old, I remember wondering how the whole White House got flooded in the first place. Children are not supposed to feel the weight of the world, much less...
4 Mistakes To Avoid During This Pandemic
Caregivers who are experiencing Coronafatigue could use some practical encouragement right about now. It doesn't take long to get caught up in the whirlwind as we play wack-a-mole to family and church challenges that we have never faced before. Here are four of the...
3 Lame Reasons Spouses Stop Dating
Most of us heard the familiar “leave” and “cleave” passage at our weddings. The term cleave literally means “to pursue hard” - which is how every marriage will grow through the various seasons of our lives. “A man leaves his father and mother and bonds/cleaves with...
4 Resolutions You MUST Make in 2020
What if this year you made life-changing New Years’ resolutions instead of a bunch of lame ones that you will eventually blow off? Some pastors are resolution rebels who discourage others from making any resolutions by pointing out the high rate of failure. They are...
4 Ways To Blow Your Ministry Exit At Retirement
I have several pastor friends who are looking down the barrel of retirement. Some are fearlessly excited about their next chapter of life and ministry. Some are flat out frightened by the whole idea of leaving the pastorate. All of us want to finish strong one day...
Thanking God For Future Blessings
As Janet and I are packing up our metro Nashville house in preparation for our move from Nashville to Tulsa, we are also preparing emotionally for the next chapter of our life and ministry. Moving evokes in us both grief and joy simultaneously...grief over who and...
Depression And The Ministry
After pastoring in a fog of clinical depression, I came very close to walking away from my church and the ministry ten years ago. I had been pastoring for 22 years at the time, and was burned out and fed up—mostly with myself. Thanks to the help of my doctor and...
4 Things a Pastor is NOT
Admit it. You do not have enough time or energy to do everything that is expected of you. I’m in that same leaky boat. The good news is that we are not supposed to. Although our gifts and calling are irrevocable, they do not make us invincible. What if we...
Dear Angry Christian…
Dear angry Christian, you have a problem and therefore have become one to others. Not sure if you qualify? Finishing the following sentence will help you know whether this post is pointed at you. You might be an angry Christian if… You clinch your fist when you...
6 Ways To Protect Your Marriage
When I answered God’s call to ministry at 16 years of age, I don’t remember considering any part of my biblical job description. I gave no thought to how some day my marriage would impact my ministry, or visa versa. In some respects, I am glad I didn’t realize all of...
5 Ways To Fight Preaching/Teaching Fatique
We vowed to preach the word … in season and out of season (2 Timothy 4:2), so should we be surprised when an out of season experience sneaks up on us? No matter how much we love to prepare and preach sermons, or teach group lessons, we will all eventually run out of...
Why Evangelism Is Easier To Preach About Than Practice
When Janet and I spoke at a marriage retreat on the Oregon coast, we were rendered breathless by its rugged coastline, enormous fir trees, and flowing waterfalls. In 1805, the great explorers Lewis and Clark discovered many of these same riches, but they missed out on...
Debunking Mentoring Myths
Several assumptions and generalizations about mentoring have morphed into myths over time. In this post I will walk back a couple of those assumptions for the purpose of helping you find a mentor. We all need one to help us grow as a person and as a pastor. If we set...
3 Ways to Ruin Easter for Everybody
Each year I am tempted to allow Easter to sneak past me without taking time to really enjoy it. That probably sounds strange since it seems like everyone else enjoys Easter: parents, kids, church members—even the unchurched, to a degree. Even though Easter is a...
Top 4 Questions About Pastors’ Kids
On March 9, 2016, an off-duty Jacksonville, FL sheriff’s detective was taking his 14- year-old son to school when he decided to pull over a white Cadillac after seeing it driving erratically. Kevin Rojas had just threatened his girlfriend with a gun and fired shots in their house before taking off in his car. Rojas immediately opened fire, hitting the detective in the head, upper body and hand. The detective returned fire, but missed.
5 Fence Posts For Sexual Purity
Last summer a young man named Ramjan fell to his death off of a 170 foot waterfall in India while attempting to pose for a selfie. Eyewitnesses said visitors tried to stop Ramjan from walking near the edge of the cliff, but were told he was “not afraid of anything.”...
7 Pastoral Pet Peeves
I’m embarrassed to say that this post did not take long for me to write. I am curious to see if you agree with these, and interested to hear some of your own. 1. Church announcementsPastors get frustrated when we get last minute announcement requests. Pre-service...
Pastors’ Hall of Fame
I recently attended an outdoor hall of fame banquet to celebrate the induction of a close friend. As several outdoor legends received well deserved recognition from peers and sponsors, the thought occurred to me that there is no equivalent event for pastors; at least...
A Letter To My Younger Self
I have never written a letter to my younger self before today because the idea seemed impractical without a time machine. Then I considered how it might be helpful to a younger pastor. I took my first church in San Antonio in 1987. I was 22 years old, and, now at 54,...
Be An Encourager This Thanksgiving
Within the next five days, we will all reconnect with a lot of people in our lives. Janet and I will drive today from Nashville to my hometown of Tyler, Texas. We will celebrate Thanksgiving with my parents, siblings, and kids. Before we jump into the Dance family...



















